Milo learnt a valuable lesson Monday morning
And that is the following
Not everyone is going to like you
I get how he gets confused..
After all we were walking across the hills and he kept getting people come up to him and want to stroke him and encourage him
‘Isn’t he beautiful’ etc etc
So there he was bless him, his tail wagging so fast his bum was shaking all over the shop
Running off after they walked by feeling all proud of himself and top of the world
Before going dashing up to the next person tail wagging only to get shouted at and told off before he had chance to work his magic..
So he comes wandering back to me looking all sorry for himself
And Milo experienced some rejection.
I get it..
Not everyone likes dogs do they..
I mean – Some people love dogs.. maybe they had them as a kid or really wanted one..
Some people don’t care for dogs at all, they like Cats or something, they don’t hate dogs they just don’t care much either way
And then there are people who don’t like Dogs at all. Maybe they had a bad experience with a dog, or someone they know did and they learnt dogs were bad or dangerous
And you see this is very much like life
Not everyone is going to like us.
And needing people to like us. ..
Needing people to approve of us for us to be happy
Well that is a fast path to unhappiness
Because now my self worth is dependant on what everyone else thinks of me
And as Milo learnt
Everyone is looking at each other through their own unique little lens.
It’s why building up your own self worth is so crucial
Because it gives you the confidence and certainty to work through the most common fear that stops folks
Fear of rejection/failure/disapproval.
We teach this heavily in our programs. And it really does make a huge difference I can tell you
